IDEAS: Relationship Abuse Guide

Talking About Relationship Abuse: A Guide for People with FASD

If someone you know is being hurt in their relationship, it can be hard to talk about. Here are some ways you can help:

1. Be Kind and Understanding

• Tell them it’s not their fault
• Let them know you’re there to help
• Remind them they’re not alone

2. Listen and Support

• Let them talk about what’s happening
• Don’t tell them what to do
• Help them make their own choices

3. Don’t Judge

• Respect their decisions
• It’s okay if they stay or leave the relationship
• Don’t make them feel bad about their choices

4. Remember You Can’t Fix It For Them

• It’s hard to see someone get hurt
• They need to make their own decisions
• Support them even if you don’t agree

5. Help Make a Safety Plan

• Talk about ways to stay safe
• This can be for leaving or staying in the relationship
• Offer to help with the plan

6. Encourage Friendships

• Suggest spending time with friends and family
• This can help them feel stronger
• It shows them there are people who care

7. Offer to Go With Them for Help

• Suggest talking to a counselor or support group
• Offer to go with them if they want
• Help them find local services that can help

Remember, you’re doing a good thing by being there for your friend. It’s okay if you don’t have all the answers. Just listening and caring can make a big difference.

TODAY’S NOTE: “It’s hard to know what to say to someone who tells you they are being hurt by a parent or friend or lover. Bullies come in all shapes and sizes. – In Solidarity, Liz“