Understanding Tough Relationships: A Guide for People with FASD – Build A SAFE TEAM!
If you have FASD, you might face some extra challenges in relationships. Sometimes, these challenges can make it hard to spot when a relationship isn’t healthy. Let’s talk about some things you might experience:
1. Spotting Harmful Behavior
It can be tricky to know when someone is treating you badly. Trust your feelings. If you often feel scared, sad, or confused around your partner, that’s not okay.
2. Standing Up for Yourself
People with FASD can sometimes be easily influenced. Remember, your thoughts and feelings matter. It’s okay to say “no” or disagree with your partner.
3. Remembering and Explaining
You might find it hard to remember or explain things that happen. This is normal with FASD. Writing things down or talking to a trusted friend can help.
4. Making Big Decisions
Choosing to leave a bad relationship is a big decision. It’s okay to take your time and ask for help from people you trust.
5. Understanding Each Other
Sometimes, your partner might not understand why you do certain things. This isn’t your fault. FASD can affect how you act, but it doesn’t make you less important.
6. Thinking About the Future
It can be hard to imagine how staying in a bad relationship might affect you later. Talk to someone you trust about your worries for the future.
7. Getting Help
There are people who want to help, but they might not know much about FASD. It’s okay to explain what you need or to ask for someone who understands FASD.
8. Dealing with Stress
You might feel tempted to use alcohol or drugs to feel better. But this can make things worse. There are healthier ways to handle stress – ask a counselor for ideas.
9. Taking Care of Yourself
Daily tasks might be challenging, but that doesn’t mean you have to rely on someone who hurts you. There are people who can help you learn these skills.
10. Feeling Good About Yourself
Having FASD and being in a tough relationship can make you feel bad about yourself. Remember, you deserve to be treated with kindness and respect. Remember, you’re not alone. There are people who want to help you have happy, healthy relationships. If you’re worried about your relationship, talk to someone you trust or call a helpline. You deserve to feel safe and happy.
TODAY’S NOTE: “My early relationships with friends and significant others were hard. I often did things because I wanted to keep a friend. It takes time to grow strong” – In Solidarity, Liz“
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