IDEAS: Creative Boundary Ideas

Here are some creative ways to express boundaries without causing conflict, especially for individuals with FASD and their families:

1. Use visual aids
   Create a “boundary board” with pictures or symbols representing different boundaries. This can be a fun, non-confrontational way to communicate limits.
2. Let me draw the boundary and share my own solutions. Some people prefer to write. Sometimes it is easier to talk about a drawing.
3. Implement a color-coded system
   Use colored cards or objects to signal different boundary levels. For example, green means “I’m open to interaction,” yellow means “Approach with caution,” and red means “I need space.”
4. Create a shared family calendar
   Mark “quiet times” or “alone times” on the calendar. This sets expectations without direct confrontation.
5. Develop boundary-related hand signals
   Agree on simple hand gestures that family members can use to communicate boundaries non-verbally.
6. Write “I feel” notes
   Encourage family members to write short notes expressing their feelings and needs. This allows for reflection before responding.
7. Use role-play, stuffies, or puppets
   Act out boundary scenarios with stuffed animals or puppets. This can make the conversation feel less personal and more playful.
8. Create a “boundary jar”
   Family members can write down boundary requests and put them in a jar. Regularly review these together in a calm setting.
9. Implement a “pause button” system
   Agree that anyone can call a “pause” during tense moments to step back and reset.
10. Design personal “islands”
    Draw or create physical spaces in the home that represent each person’s personal space and boundaries.
11. Use music or sounds
    Assign specific songs or sounds to different boundary needs. Playing these can signal needs without confrontation.

Creative approaches can help make boundary-setting feel more like a collaborative family activity rather than a source of conflict. Setting boundaries is an act of self-care and family protection. It may be challenging at first, but with time and practice, it can lead to healthier relationships and better understanding of FASD within your whole family.

TODAY’S NOTE: “Mom always had new ideas to try – some worked and some REALLY did not, but I still loved her.” – In Solidarity, Liz“